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Technology has accelerated our fascination with pleasure. Indeed, the power of pleasure has been underestimated, and Internet pornography is changing the world in a fundamental way.
In this book, author Donald L. Hilton Jr. MD explores the destructive power of pornography addiction, not just from a moral and spiritual perspective, but with the scrutiny of modern science. Current research tells us that there is little difference in physical or chemical changes in the pleasure and control centers of the brain regardless of whether the addiction is "from a chemical or an experience," as stated in the journal of Science. (Constance Holden, "Behavioral ADdictions Do They Exist? Science, 294 (5544) 2 November 2001, 980.)
Relying on the latest research on addiction, and merging this knowledge with spiritual aspects of repentance and recovery, the author provides understanding and hope to those who seek healing and restoration of both body and spirit, which are the "soul of man."
He Restoreth My Soul edition by Donald L Hilton Jr MD Health Fitness Dieting eBooks
The author does a wonderful job at explaining the comprehensive nature of pornography addiction and the crippling ripple effects it has on a user's life, and appropriately expounds on the tremendous difficulty of dealing with it successfully. Ironically, the introduction is probably the best part of the book, in my opinion. I didn't need to read this book to understand the seriousness of the problem and the heartache and terrible damage it causes within a marriage because I am living it. What I appreciate more than anything is the "What Can We Do?" section in the introduction that discusses the paradigm shift needed in the Church in regards to pornography. Hilton presents very clear and realistic suggestions as to how we as a people and a church need to view this plague. Finally, someone who "gets it!" His suggestions are sobering but right on!As good as most of the book is, however, I can only afford it three stars for two reasons. There are two very important things Hilton misses, although I can't necessarily fault him in this because they're things that have just been coming to light in very recent years. Perhaps, hopefully, future editions of the book will be revised to address these issues.
First, the full scope of the physiological effects of porn on the brain is not presented. It's bad enough as presented in the book, but it can in fact be even worse. As Hilton accurately points out, a pornograhy problem can cause a man to be less interested in pursuing marriage and to prefer pornograhy and masturbation to actual sexual relations with a real woman. That second part is bad enough if you're the wife married to a porn addict, but it gets worse than that. Only very recently has it been discovered, since the onset of high speed Internet porn and boys and men masturbating to it regularly for years, that a porn habit can actually cause erectile disfunction in young men. There are guys in their early 20s who started on the high speed stuff as boys and used it for the better part of a decade before getting married. When they try to have sex with their new wives, they can't. Love and physical desire for her is not enough to get it up down there. He can sincerely WANT to have sex with her but is rendered incapable because he has successfully trained his brain to respond only to images on a screen. ED drugs won't help him either, because they target the wrong organ (it's not a penis problem, it's a brain problem). The sexual signals these guys are getting from real women simply do not send strong enough signals from the brain to the trousers to get them ready. For older men this can be a problem too, though usually less severe if they had plenty of real sex with their wives before getting hooked on the high speed porn. Still, should an otherwise healthy man in his 30s lose his libido for weeks at a time? Or have difficulty responding physically to an eager wife? Or find it increasingly difficult to climax during sex with his wife? How must all of this feel for the wife, especially if she doesn't know that his secret porn habit is the culprit?!
Second, this book places way too much emphasis on the supposed co-dependency of the wives. Automatically labeling wives of sexual addicts as co-dependent is an old and flawed practice. Not to mention, extremely hurtful to traumatized wives who had no idea about their husbands' addictions prior to disclosure. The new and clearer thinking is that the wives are suffering from the post traumatic stress of sexual betrayal. Many of the feelings and behaviors of the traumatized spouse mirror those of co-dependency (hense the quick jump to that conclusion in the past, and sometimes still) but the reasons behind those feelings and behaviors are far from that of co-dependency! While it is certainly possible for wives to eventually become co-depependent after learning of and living with their husbands' addictions, this is not something that happens automatically or in every case. This book presents the natural and inevitable feelings and behaviors of the victimized spouse as absolutely co-dependent, which only adds more pain to the immense pain of the betrayal trauma she is already experiencing. Wives are absolutely in need of the support they can find at 12 step groups and the healing of the Atonement in their lives, but because they have been harmed by their husbands' actions, not because they are necessarily co-dependent. Wives are human and thus flaws too, obviously, as we all all human and imperfect. But to label them as co-dependent simply because they unknowingly married a sexual addict greatly minimizes the pain and trauma of their situation. For any wife who finds herself in this situation and is having difficulty feeling understood or validated in her pain and anger, I highly recommend the book Your Sexually Addicted Spouse, How Partners Can Cope and Heal by Barbara Steffens and Marsha Means.
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It's an excellent read. He doesn't absolve the user of responsibility, but puts perspective and understanding to why there is an addiction, and what can actually help. I highly recommend this for those addicted, spouses, and bishops.
I believe the key to overcoming addiction of every kind is being connected to others that really care about and are praying for the addict. There is no one better than the Savior himself for healing connection. He Restoreth My Soul is one of the best resources I have discovered for overcoming addiction and to help family and friends support their struggling loved ones. We all can benefit from the Atonement of Christ as we help one another. Great read.
This book is for anyone struggling with addiction and the spouses or other co dependents. While it is written about sexual addiction it really can be applied to all addictions. I highly recommend it for anyone in these situations or even if you think there might be a problem. It is very eye opening. And I love how it brings healing through turning our hearts and will over to the Savior and allowing Him to heal our broken hearts and help us find true happiness!
This book is well written though I feel, after having read it that it is very rough on the sufferer, compassion is a bit lacking though their intent is in the right place.
It does not matter what ails you.. what demon possesses you (alcohol, drugs, sex, pornography, etc.) this book gives you hope and help to realize that God does love you, and does not judge as we judge ourselves. We can be so critical of ourselves that we are the ones who prevent ourselves from reaching our goals. We can overcome.. and we do it with the Lords help. It also helps us understand the underlying psychological make up of our bodies and how all these chemicals that either our body makes or we ingest, can affect us. I have not completed the book yet.. but after half way through it.. it has brought a sense of power on my end to whip this devil to the ground.
This book is written with the LDS (Mormon) addict as the target audience. However, it is an excellent treatise on the process of pornography addiction and recovery that anyone so afflicted will benefit from. As a group leader in a 12 step program specifically for porn addiction, I have found this book extremely helpful in understanding the process and the individuals caught in this pernicious addiction. I refer to it often when meeting with those participating in our group and they have likewise found it to be an excellent book. Dr. Hilton, a neurosurgeon with many years experience, both in research and practice, explains in terms simple enough for the layman to grasp, the processes in the brain that affect addictions. I highly recommend this book for addicts as well as those working to help addicts.
Written by a neurosurgeon, this book give a biological perspective on the damage that addictive behaviors can do to the brain physically, and how the process may be reversed. Combined with the spiritual perspective, this book is a powerful aid in helping those who deals with either addictive behavior themselves, or the addiction of someone who they care about. If you are looking to understand how addiction harms and how recovery can be achieved, this is a very helpful book. Included also are many stories of recovering addicts that gives hope to those who are currently suffering. Highly recommend it.
The author does a wonderful job at explaining the comprehensive nature of pornography addiction and the crippling ripple effects it has on a user's life, and appropriately expounds on the tremendous difficulty of dealing with it successfully. Ironically, the introduction is probably the best part of the book, in my opinion. I didn't need to read this book to understand the seriousness of the problem and the heartache and terrible damage it causes within a marriage because I am living it. What I appreciate more than anything is the "What Can We Do?" section in the introduction that discusses the paradigm shift needed in the Church in regards to pornography. Hilton presents very clear and realistic suggestions as to how we as a people and a church need to view this plague. Finally, someone who "gets it!" His suggestions are sobering but right on!
As good as most of the book is, however, I can only afford it three stars for two reasons. There are two very important things Hilton misses, although I can't necessarily fault him in this because they're things that have just been coming to light in very recent years. Perhaps, hopefully, future editions of the book will be revised to address these issues.
First, the full scope of the physiological effects of porn on the brain is not presented. It's bad enough as presented in the book, but it can in fact be even worse. As Hilton accurately points out, a pornograhy problem can cause a man to be less interested in pursuing marriage and to prefer pornograhy and masturbation to actual sexual relations with a real woman. That second part is bad enough if you're the wife married to a porn addict, but it gets worse than that. Only very recently has it been discovered, since the onset of high speed Internet porn and boys and men masturbating to it regularly for years, that a porn habit can actually cause erectile disfunction in young men. There are guys in their early 20s who started on the high speed stuff as boys and used it for the better part of a decade before getting married. When they try to have sex with their new wives, they can't. Love and physical desire for her is not enough to get it up down there. He can sincerely WANT to have sex with her but is rendered incapable because he has successfully trained his brain to respond only to images on a screen. ED drugs won't help him either, because they target the wrong organ (it's not a penis problem, it's a brain problem). The sexual signals these guys are getting from real women simply do not send strong enough signals from the brain to the trousers to get them ready. For older men this can be a problem too, though usually less severe if they had plenty of real sex with their wives before getting hooked on the high speed porn. Still, should an otherwise healthy man in his 30s lose his libido for weeks at a time? Or have difficulty responding physically to an eager wife? Or find it increasingly difficult to climax during sex with his wife? How must all of this feel for the wife, especially if she doesn't know that his secret porn habit is the culprit?!
Second, this book places way too much emphasis on the supposed co-dependency of the wives. Automatically labeling wives of sexual addicts as co-dependent is an old and flawed practice. Not to mention, extremely hurtful to traumatized wives who had no idea about their husbands' addictions prior to disclosure. The new and clearer thinking is that the wives are suffering from the post traumatic stress of sexual betrayal. Many of the feelings and behaviors of the traumatized spouse mirror those of co-dependency (hense the quick jump to that conclusion in the past, and sometimes still) but the reasons behind those feelings and behaviors are far from that of co-dependency! While it is certainly possible for wives to eventually become co-depependent after learning of and living with their husbands' addictions, this is not something that happens automatically or in every case. This book presents the natural and inevitable feelings and behaviors of the victimized spouse as absolutely co-dependent, which only adds more pain to the immense pain of the betrayal trauma she is already experiencing. Wives are absolutely in need of the support they can find at 12 step groups and the healing of the Atonement in their lives, but because they have been harmed by their husbands' actions, not because they are necessarily co-dependent. Wives are human and thus flaws too, obviously, as we all all human and imperfect. But to label them as co-dependent simply because they unknowingly married a sexual addict greatly minimizes the pain and trauma of their situation. For any wife who finds herself in this situation and is having difficulty feeling understood or validated in her pain and anger, I highly recommend the book Your Sexually Addicted Spouse, How Partners Can Cope and Heal by Barbara Steffens and Marsha Means.
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